The M Word

 

In this blog, I will attempt to address a question posed by a female believer. It is not a question I like to talk about, nonetheless, few will address it so here I am stepping forward outside my opinion, to share what the bible does or does not say about the subject. The question posed to me was, Is masturbation a sin." What a complicated issue. The bible does not mention the word masturbation but has clear warnings regarding adultery and fornication, even spelling out those two words we still use in our vocabulary today. But the M-word doesn't appear in scripture as these two words clearly do.  If the word masturbation isn't spoken of in the bible then it must be okay. Right? Many believe this to be true. Sometimes people will use the argument that masturbation is healthy to justify their inability to control themselves. Many doctors and psychologists will tell you, "Masturbation can actually be good for your health, both mentally and physically. And it's pretty much the safest sex out there — there's no risk of getting pregnant or getting an STD. When you have an orgasm, your body releases endorphins, which are hormones that block pain and make you feel good." I concur. Neurochemicals released during sex and orgasm reduce stress, help you sleep, and make you feel at peace. However, having sex outside of marriage or habitually masturbating is an abuse of the body's natural response to sex. As Christian, do we listen to man for spiritual guidance and instructions, or do we refer to our Father in heaven? I believe the correct answer is, we search all the scriptures for our answers. I'll do that here, I'll refer you to appropriate scriptures, then you decide the direction for your own life. I am condemning no one. I'm simply making the attempt to give a civil answer through God's Word.

It is well noted by the world that the word "homosexuality" is not recorded in the bible. This is true! However, anyone without a degree of any kind can interpret these words from scripture addressed to the male population, “You shall not lie with a male as with a woman; it is an abomination” and another verse: "And likewise also the men, leaving the natural use of the woman, burned in their lust one toward another; men with men working that which is unseemly, and receiving in themselves that recompense of their error which was meet" (Leviticus 18:22; Romans 1:27) And there is also a caveat for women regarding lesbianism, "for even the women did change the natural use into that which is against nature" (Romans 1:26). So you see, even though words like homosexual, lesbian, gay, queer, etc. which we assign to these behaviors are not specifically used in the bible, it is clear scripture is addressing these actions. Likewise, the word "abortion" is not mentioned in the bible either, yet scripture points out one thing that God hates is the shedding of innocent blood (Proverbs 6:17), so much so He labels it an abomination. How innocent is the unborn?

So, how do we know if masturbation is right or wrong if the word itself is absent from scriptures? The same way we looked at the above scriptures that clearly point to homosexuality and lesbianism. The truth is, masturbation becomes a moral issue because it involves sexuality. How so? What is a person thinking of while in the act? I'm sure it never involves unicorns, lollipops, and rainbows! No, for stimulation one must think of a person, a movie scene, what they viewed in a pornographic magazine, etc. Sexual fantasies about someone you are not married to are, as Jesus stated, "adultery of the heart." If you're fantasizing about a married man or woman WHILE MARRIED, that is the same as adultery of the heart. If you're single and fantasizing about a woman or man, even if it's fictional, that's fornication of the heart (look up Matthew 5:28). "So what do we do then? I'm not so naive to think those who are committed to purity in mind and body don't have sexual hormones, dreams, and thoughts that impact their body. 

Paul taught us that nothing should master us. In other words, we shouldn't be controlled or addicted to anything. The ONLY WAY to overcome any addictions or vice is by renewing your mind and the only way to ever accomplish that is THROUGH THE WORD OF GOD! You must wash your mind with the gospel! Ephesians 5:26 specifically teaches that the church (believers) are sanctified and made holy (John 1:14) by the "washing of the Word." This is why I so often stress that Christians need to READ THE BIBLE! That very word will cleanse and transform your thinking and when that happens by the power of the Holy Spirit, your actions and behaviors will follow suit.

"Don't you realize that your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit, who lives in you and was given to you by God? You do not belong to yourself, for God bought you with a high price. So you must honor God with your body" (1 Corinthians 6:19–20). This verse can bring conviction regarding a lot of choices we make with our bodies, but it was written in the context of sexuality. If there is a "gold standard" question to ask, this is it. In some situations, the answer to whether you're glorifying God in your body may be yes, and in other situations, the answer is clearly no. I believe masturbation is an issue that each woman has to ask the Lord about. When God wanted to be clear about something, He inspired clear teaching in Scripture. The Bible is silent regarding using the term masturbation. What God did state definitely is that He wants to give us His wisdom. "If you need wisdom, ask our generous God, and He will give it to you. He will not rebuke you for asking" (James 1:5). God is the High Priest who understands our questions and struggles. Even in this most intimate (and perhaps embarrassing) issue, don't be afraid to pour out your heart to Him and ask for His specific direction and wisdom. NOTHING IS IMPOSSIBLE FOR GOD! He parted the Red Sea for goodness sake, prevented Shadrach, Meshach, and Abednego from burning in the fiery furnace, and He created heavens and earth. What? Do you think it is too difficult for Him to take away misguided sexual cravings or compulsions? You'd be wrong.

In closing, the hardest prayer for me to pray is a variation of “Here I am, Lord; I come to do Your Will.” (Psalm 40:8-9) When you feel those controlling tendencies creeping in, try to catch yourself and pray-- 'Jesus, give me the desire to know and accept Your will. Give me the desire to want Your will more than what I want. When I try to control things in my life, I am unable to truly receive from You. Help me get out of Your way so that You reign more in my life.' Be honest and direct with Him. He will provide what you are unable to do because as He said, "Fear not, in this world you will have trouble. But take heart, I have OVERCOME the world" (John 16:3). Jesus will extend His power to you through the Holy Spirit if you'll only submit.

Until He comes,

-Pat-